My mom was born on Friday May 13th, 1932. And yesterday, Friday February 13th, was Ian’s and my 33rd wedding anniversary. Nothing negative there! Nothing neutral either. Both are very positive, special days.
“Fear is a powerful form of thought.” – Charles Haanel
They said we should not get married. They said we’d never last. They said Ian didn’t think things through. They said we hadn’t been engaged long enough. They said I wasn’t sure enough.
“They” were all people I highly respected and trusted. People who had given me wise counsel during difficult times in the past. But this time, they were wrong.
“The way to overcome fear is to become conscious of power.” – Charles Haanel
We all need the wise counsel of friends who can perhaps see things we are too blind to see. But in this case, I knew some things that they didn’t. Most important, I knew my “doubts” were nothing more than cold feet — a natural reaction of one who already knows what she wants, but is afraid to make big commitments.
Instead we listened to Ian’s brother Glenn (who married us) and sister Eva.
Glenn said, “Think seriously, and pray about this decision. Be sure you know you will be more together than you will ever be separately.”
Kind of like 1+1=3. Or, in other words, a mastermind! We knew that’s exactly what we would be.
Eva said, “I can see it now. Ian and Willena in a canoe, heading for the falls and they don’t even notice because they’re so deep in conversation!”
She meant it in a good way, and she was right. We’ve gone through some pretty rough times over the years, and it has always been one of our strongest points that we can talk through just about anything. When the communication lines are open, and you choose to believe the best of one another, there’s no way you can go wrong. Brick upon brick, you build on that strong foundation, and it will not easily crumble.
What am I pretending not to know?
That is a question I’ve been asking myself lately. When things pile up and life is chaotic, it’s easy to get overwhelmed and say, “What should I do? I don’t know what to do!” It’s never true. The answers are there, either in my heart of hearts already, or in the still, small voice of my Lord Jesus Christ, who waits patiently for me to stop muddling around and listen to Him.
I knew the answer 33 years ago. And I know the answer now.
“Blessed are they for whom to know is to take action on it.” – Isabella Alden