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Week 9 – Andrew’s Gift

All of our seven children are generous with anything they have. They had very little when they were growing up, but that never made them stingy with their money or resources when they did start earning. If they have it, they share. If they don’t have it, they share anyway.

“I promise I will give something to every person I encounter… without expectation of reciprocity.” ~ from the Law of Giving and Receiving

My son Andrew is only 23, but he understands this. When he heard my mom was in the hospital two months ago, he said, “You are going to Ontario to see Grandma. I have the money for two plane tickets. Who do you want to go with you?”

When you have seven children, and you live more than two thousand miles across the country from your mom, you don’t expect to get back home to see her often. I hadn’t seen my mom in almost ten years. I didn’t expect to see her now.

Thanks to Andrew, my youngest daughter, youngest son and I flew across Canada to see my mom for a few short days in October. It was the greatest treasure my son will ever give me, for I will never have the opportunity again. My mom passed away this past Sunday.

Willena & children in 2005

Me with my children in 2005

So how does an MKMMA member keep up with the daily requirements at such a time as this? Grief, pain, confusion, and a yearning to be with my family are all interwoven into the tapestry that make up my days. I could not fly back for the funeral, but my week has been full of correspondence with many friends and my large extended family back home. I’m sure glad feelings are not the same as thoughts, and my mental diet is not totally washed out!

I will confess I have not kept up as well as I would have liked, this week. But what I am learning here is helping me through this difficult time.

“I welcome the darkness, for it shows me the stars… I endure sadness for it opens my soul.” ~ from Scroll II

I have seen strength in my younger sister that I didn’t know she had. I have found myself reaching out to one brother in a way I never would under normal circumstances. And I have begun to see just how much my mom meant to so many people over the 82 years of her life. She was an amazing woman And I have to smile as I see the truth of the adage, “some things never change” — she is remembered as “The Cat Lady” by many, because she loved cats so much that strays would show up on her doorstep, fully expecting her to feed them. Which she always did!

Me with my mom in December 2004

“I never allow my mind to be attracted to evil and despair, rather I uplift it with the knowledge and wisdom of [the Word of God].” ~ Scroll II

God’s Word says, “Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on Thee: because he trusteth in Thee.” (Isaiah 26:3) Sometimes it isn’t easy to relax, and trust in the Lord. But the more I do, the more peace I find in this situation that could have me in darkest despair. Grieving is a tricky thing. One never knows what is going to trigger an unexpected reaction, even long after the loved one has departed. It still happens now, almost five years after losing our son. I don’t expect the road to be smooth. But I know it will be a lot smoother because of these spiritual tools that are always with me no matter where I am or what I am going through.

I am whole, perfect, strong, powerful, loving, harmonious and happy!


7 thoughts on “Week 9 – Andrew’s Gift

  1. Hi Willena,

    What a beautiful share you have given us. It is so difficult to loose our parents no matter how old they are. I am so sorry for your loss. I know the grieving process so well, and it has a funny way of “hitting” us. We can be going through a normal day and boom…something triggers and we start crying.

    Your mom…the “cat lady” sounds like she was a wonderful giving person. And this gift from Andrew had to be the best one of all!

    It is so difficult to live so far away…I know, my family lives all over the US and no one lives near us. When something happens, we have to figure out how the heck we are going to travel.

    But thank God, you have faith. I do believe that as long as we do, God has a funny way of holding us up.

    Be blessed,


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    • Hi Donna,

      I’m the only one who moved so far away, and I *thought* that was only to attend Bible college. I didn’t know I was going to dig up my roots and plant them in Alberta. 😉 Even my siblings and my aunts and uncles all live within an hour of my hometown. This is why Ian and I feel incredibly blessed that right now, all 5 of our grown children have chosen to live close enough to see us once or twice every week. It won’t always be that way, I’m sure, so I’m savouring it while I can.


  2. Hi Willena, My deepest sympathy to you and your family. The section from Scroll 2 which you quoted is so true and very encouraging.Thank you for sharing such a wonderful story on love, giving and faith. You have been blessed with a loving family along with your faith. With warmest wishes and much love, Brenda

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