“The greatest hindrance to accomplishing results is erroneous and fixed ideas.” ~ Charles Haanel
That is the reason for our challenge last week, of expressing NO opinions unless specifically asked, and unless it’s an area of expertise for me. Instead I am an Observer — not judging or criticizing myself, but watching and noticing how often I’m tempted to give my opinion when I’m not asked to.
Observing without speaking slows me down, and gives me a chance to stop and think about my opinions. Are they truth, or are they erroneous? Am I willing to consider new ideas or new angles, or are they fixed ideas?
One thing that has always bothered me about the way the Law of Attraction is presented, is that everything in my life today is a result of my predominant thoughts and desires, and that I am responsible for it. If I am fearful that I will lose my job or my health, that’s exactly what will happen. But if it were that simple, what happens when there is a conflict among different individuals thinking about the same thing?
In this week’s lesson, Haanel puts it into perspective for me.
“Thought is a product of Mind and Mind is creative, but this does not mean that the Universal will change its modus operandi to suit us or our ideas, but it does mean that we can come into harmonious relationship with the Universal, and when we have accomplished this we may ask anything to which we are entitled, and the way will be made plain.” ~ Charles Haanel
In other words, a lot of things that happen in my life are not the result of my thinking at all, but I do have full control over how I allow it to affect me. If I lose my health, I have a choice. I can give up, and set in motion a series of events that will cause continually worsening health… or I can take every step possible to build my health up, which will make me feel better and maybe even restore me to full health.
One of our assignments this week is to look myself in the eye each evening and tell myself, with enthusiasm, “I love you, Willena Flewelling!” I still find that tough to do.
I often hear people say it’s wrong to “love myself”, because that is self-centered and selfish. Granted, it can be. It depends on how I look at it, and how I approach it.
This is taken from The Scroll Marked II, I will greet this day with love in my heart, by Og Mandino.
“Most of all I will love myself. For when I do I will zealously inspect all things which enter my body, my mind, my soul, and my heart. Never will I overindulge the requests of my flesh; rather I will cherish my body with cleanliness and moderation. Never will I allow my mind to be attracted to evil and despair, rather I will uplift it with the knowledge and wisdom of the ages. Never will I wllow my soul to become complacent and satisfied, rather I will feed it with meditation and paryer. Never will I allow my heart to become small and bitter, rahter I will share it and it will grow and warm the earth.”
Now that makes sense! It has nothing to do with selfishness or self-centeredness, and everything to do with diligently guarding what enters my body, my mind, my soul, and my heart. To love myself means doing things that will increase my strength and stability in every way — physically, mentally, spiritually, and emotionally. Only to the extent that I do this, will I be able to love others in sincerity and truth.